A choice between authentic & belonging

SUSANNE TALK

September 28, 2021

 

Susanne shares events that have inspired her, caught her attention. This past week Susanne was in a virtual Mastermind for two days where the women showed up so authentically that it inspired her to want to share some of those events with you.

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A choice between authentic & belonging

Hello, and welcome to another episode of The Pointe To Rise podcast. My name is Susanne, and I am your host today. So on Tuesdays, if you’re new here, I usually talk about what happened over the past week, things that came up for me, a topic that made me think or I learned about. So this week, I had the privilege to spend two days in a mastermind group. We had a virtual event filled with authentically showing up women that were so incredibly inspiring, and I wanted to share with you.

How it made me feel and what came up for me, in particular, a question. And I would love to take this point and make it into a long thread of conversation.

So these women that showed up there, one in particular, really sparked something in me that I didn’t know I hadn’t overcome yet. Her name is Kathy Heller. She used to be a songwriter and composer, and she now has one of the top 10 podcasts in North America. She interviews ‘A’ list people and, she is the kindest giving, most authentic person you can ever imagine. So this whole story that I usually had that a successful person, a person that we deem as successful, a person that we deem as they made it are capable of being super great. And she, in particular, was just incredible; she left a mark on me, in my heart. And there was one quote that stuck with me. And that was, we have two choices at all times. It’s either being authentic or belonging.

And it made me think how long I belonged to something to somebody, to an industry, to a dream, to somebody else’s opinion, and how suffocating it was and how much it had me in handcuffs. And I wanted to talk to you about how that option for me, in particular, relates to performing arts because that’s my jam. That’s what I love. That’s where I’m from, that’s where I belong, that’s my purpose.

But I also invite you to draw your parallels because it applies to everybody and every walk in life. So the choice between authentic and belonging means that we can either show up as ourselves and have the boundaries in place that say, this is who I am, this is what I want. And this is how I show up. Or I belong to this kind of belief or industry and, let’s say, the performing arts; therefore, I have to be a certain way. But if that certain way doesn’t align with who you truly are, who your soul is, you will feel so much friction you feel emptiness and searching and restlessness that it will come back to you tenfold later on in life. You will potentially find yourself wanting to drown out to numb out this feeling. It’s not unhappiness but unfulfilled. Your higher self will always be reaching for your highest potential, and if you are diverting from it will let you know.

This morning, I’ve had a few comments in a social media post where New York City Ballet’s opening season made it to the New York Times’ front page. Congratulations, guys. Everybody deserves to be on that front page, right? Because performing arts are essential. They are imperative. It is a great tribute for the past 18 months where every dancer, every performing artist, for that matter, stayed at home and had to go inward and search and understand what their next steps were going to be. As for all those people that, showed up on zoom classes every day and inspired others to stay in shape and to keep going and that nobody out there can determine what your dream is going to look like.

It made me think, like, yes, performing arts belong on the front page. Absolutely. Every single day. And what are we waiting for? are we waiting to be invited to a New York Times to Washington post? Or a Spiegel or Forbes? What are we waiting for? Why are we not taking those opportunities ourselves? Why is it not possible for performing arts organizations to step into that media outlet and seek exposure? I’m choosing aggressive here on purpose, aggressive in a go-getter? Say go-getter kind of attitude, taking action, not wanting to be written up on the front page, no, create your front page every day? And I believe that when we’re coming at it from that point of view when we genuinely think that we as performing artists, we as the performing art belong on the front page every day, we know our worth that we care enough to be on that front page.

We are going to ask different questions. We’re going to take different actions. We’re going to show up differently when to show up authentically. We’re not waiting to belong to somebody who perhaps gives us money or permits us to show ourselves. Get it yourself, show up authentically. Know your vision, know your mission. What are your core values? How are you deciding the future of your organization? Or as you as a single person really, truly looks like? Do you know yet what your 2022 goals are? Have you written it out? Have you ever thought about what 2022 is going to look like for you?

Yes, no, there is no judgment. If you haven’t done it yet, I highly recommend doing so; the earlier, the better. So you know what your next steps are.

That is all being authentically you everything like making your own choices and decisions showing up as you knowing who you want to be giving yourself the permission to change your mind every single day.

That is showing up authentically. It is not belonging to somebody else. And I feel that Performing Arts have that kind of victim stance that we should be subsidized. We should get more help Europe gets all this, and we don’t get anything.

I feel like the pandemic has firmly pushed the performing arts to that kind of crossroad to decide, hey, who do we want to be? What are we standing for? And I feel that now more than ever, it is so amazing.

To truly understand who you are and what you want. And yes, organizations need to decide themselves. And every single person should do the same thing. Because then you can determine whether or not the organization you are with is a fit for you or not.

If you can be authentically you or not, when you are authentically showing up as you as that person, you are more capable of really tapping into your potential.

I want to share with you something at this point. We were talking about the mastermind I was in and the topic of our Domino tipping action that we need to take right now that would push us forward and into 2022. And I, I knew my Domino tipping point.

And I found myself, and I was still at this point, finding myself fighting for my limitations, meaning not wanting or being afraid of showing up authentically because I’m still searching for who that person is, right? And when we don’t know, even when we know, but we think that you know, people will judge us. I had the mastermind group pour into me. One of the ladies said, or asked me the question, do you know how powerful you are?

And I didn’t. I was like, why are you asking me that question? I don’t; I didn’t even want to lean into it. I didn’t want to hear it. I found myself getting angry for a moment because I was in so much disbelief.

My belonging self is so strong and still, at times, that my authentic self had a hard time listening. And taking that on, you can use other narratives here, like your ego and your higher self, whatever works for you. But for me, I’m talking about Kathy and how she shows up. And what an inspiration it was for me. It opened my eyes so wide that that is something for me that I am still struggling with believing people when they tell me something, understanding that I am powerful, even though I am still rejecting that.

So I am leaving you with this. And I’m leaving you with some homework this time. And I’d love it if you could share your takeaway. Your task is what do you want 2022 to look like? What is it that you want to achieve in 2022? What’s your income? What is it going to feel like? Where are you going to live? Are you going to move? Are you going to look for a different job? Are you going to start a side hustle? Are you going to inspire others? Are you going to, I don’t know, learn to cook. I don’t know what it is for you. I’d love it if you were to figure that out for yourself.

You know, chasing success is excellent. But if you don’t know what that success looks like, if you don’t know where you’re going, your GPS does not know where to send you.

I’m sending you so much love. Show up authentically don’t belong it’s not worth it. It’s too much energy, all of that energy. You can pour that into yourself. And when you are showing up in your highest power, you will make such a big difference in other people’s life.

That’s all I have for today. I’m sending you so much love.
Again, if this resonates with you if you want to learn more about how emotions play a role in our lives, drop me a DM or share one of your biggest takeaways of this podcast. I’m sending you so much love till soon. Bye-bye

I’m sending you so much ❤

Susanne

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About Susanne Puerschel

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Susanne, Founder of Pointe To Rise, an Empowerment society for dancers and other artists, Wellness Entrepreneur, podcast host, former international ballerina, and an experienced principal chief executive officer had the privilege to grow up behind the iron curtain in Berlin, Germany.
She’s dedicating her time now, after working in cooperate America and running her own businesses, to building community among dancers and artists, providing mindset and high-performance coaching, and building a media company that will be the springboard to revitalizing the Arts.

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