Denying yourself your daily successes equals denying yourself your future successes

SUSANNE TALK

August 3, 2021

 

Susanne shares a moment of truth of how she has been denying herself to claim her successes within each day.

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Denying yourself your daily successes equals denying yourself your future successes

Hello, and welcome to another episode of the Pointe To Rise podcast. My name is Susanne, and I am your host today. I wanted to talk to you about something that I realized this week. I often struggle with and have denied myself for a very long time and what the outcome actually was, and here’s how I’m rewriting it to be more present and more successful.

So use the situation. I was on the phone with a possible investor for R.I.S.E Media, and one of the questions he asked me was, so what have you done that qualifies you to be a leader in this field? And I completely froze. I could not answer the question. The first thought that came to my mind was, well, nothing.

I’ve never been a leader in that capacity. I’ve never founded a media company. I have never done something like that before. And my innate reaction, the next emotion that came up was, well, I might as well not do it because I am not qualified. Here’s the deal that shocked me. That one, the question shook my two days until I got on the phone with my mentor and I presented her with this scenario, and she said, well, I beg to differ.

First of all, she asked me the question. So are you writing down every day, what went well, what your successes were, how you showed up, and what you have accomplished, like what tiny steps are you taking every day that qualifies you to be a leader in that kind of field?

Then don’t take this the wrong way, but what else have you done? And there is a lot that you have done. It’s just that we in society and perhaps more so in the performing arts are under this impression that knowing what we’re great at is linked to being arrogant, being full of ourselves. I’m shining too bright.

I know that I have been told, just not so loud, Susanne, you’re too loud. Nobody wants to see this. You are too shiny. I’ve learned how to dim my light. Subconsciously I didn’t know what I was doing. And it always felt to this day, really against everything that I believed in, that I should know what I’m great at and what I have accomplished.

She opened up a wholly new perspective and also got me thinking around, oh my goodness. I have been doing this all my life. I have denied myself what I have achieved and what I have accomplished. For two reasons, I didn’t want to look like someone that wants to be seen or needs to be seen or the ‘look at me kind of personality I have never been that person.

Secondly, because what if it’s not true? What if other people don’t see it? The way I see it? I didn’t want to put any energy into convincing them. What if that is right? What if somebody doesn’t see that as a significant accomplishment? Well, that’s on them. That’s not on me. And I have never been able to make that connection.

I don’t know if you can relate to this. When you, for example, go and audition, or when you are sending out audition videos. What is that voice in your head when you’re asked what are you great at? What comes out first? What is your initial thought and reaction? Is it an ooey-gooey feeling in your tummy, and you want to say, no, no, I’m not great at anything.

You know, I can constantly improve, or are you consciously able to say. Hey, so these are the things that I’m great at. This is what qualifies me to audition for your position. This is where I want to go. Having confidence in oneself tells us that we are significant enough to do whatever we want to do.

Here is what we’re holding out on when we are not evaluating this daily. I was listening to a podcast this morning. High-performing people are doing this self-check-in on an hourly basis. They are checking in not once a year. Not every six months. Not every week, not every once a day. They’re checking in every single hour. What they have accomplished, and how much closer are they towards their goal. And with this plan of assessment, you’re always very aware of where you’re at and where you want to go and where your gap is, meaning, you know what you’re great at, you know, where you want to improve, and then you take action.

It is not something that’s just stored away in a dark little corner, and we’re not looking at it because we’re afraid of what other people think. No, it is the awareness of where you’re at, where you want to go and how you can close that gap that pushes people allowing high-performing people forward on a much faster scale.

So, what do we deny ourselves when we don’t look at what we’re great at? I think we deny ourselves our future successes. Because if we don’t know what we have accomplished, then how do we know where we want to go and what we want to achieve, and how are we going to get there if we’re not able to honestly assess our successes, what we’re great at our superpowers, and then what we’re not.

What our challenges are and how we can circum these challenges. So the next time you look in the mirror, I want you to, instead of looking at all the things that need improvement, I want you to find great things that you like about yourself, things that make you a great performer, a great dancer, a great mother, a great sister.

It is more important than you ever will think it is that you know what you have accomplished. That is one thing we need to look back at every single day, if not every single hour. And that is confidence to show up in situations that are unfamiliar to us. That spikes fear in us or brings our imposters out loud and clear and lets us know that we’re not capable or not worthy of doing, experiencing, or having that kind of a relationship.

So you need to know what you have accomplished already. To find future success because of the little moments of reflection, that’s proof that you are capable.

That is your motivation, your inspiration to keep ongoing. So with that said, my morning and evening habits are including the self-assessment of my daily performance per se, as in how I’m feeling aware. Have I gotten and where do I want to go? And I look at really clearly what have I achieved today? What did I do great? And I’m compiling that. So I have evidence that the next time somebody asks me what kind of an experience or what makes you an expert in this field? I have an answer, and I don’t feel like I have.

I’m sending you so much love. I hope this message helped you. I hope you can take something away. Please share your takeaway. On social media and tag me, I want to know where you’re at. I want to know how I can help you and provide more value for your next steps.

I’m sending you so much ❤

Susanne

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About Susanne Puerschel

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Susanne, Founder of Pointe To Rise, an Empowerment society for dancers and other artists, Wellness Entrepreneur, podcast host, former international ballerina, and an experienced principal chief executive officer had the privilege to grow up behind the iron curtain in Berlin, Germany.
She’s dedicating her time now, after working in cooperate America and running her own businesses, to building community among dancers and artists, providing mindset and high-performance coaching, and building a media company that will be the springboard to revitalizing the Arts.

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