Christy & Susanne connecting this week over $$ mindset and the effects it has on artists. Come join us with no judgment. We are holding space to learn, laugh, and downright pointe at ourselves.
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Money & Art |Do you know your worth – Part 2?
Do you know your worth? Part 2
The more worthy you feel, the less you need to control everything, to prove that you are smart enough, good enough, talented enough, whatever. Our need to control everything and not to ask for help or not delegate is because we don’t feel good enough. Being able to relinquish responsibilities to other people is actually a big sign of worthiness.
When we look at the arts in terms of control and hiring things out and who does what, there’s a lot of, “Oh, we need this for free.” “You’re on the board, so we need legal advice from you for free,” or “you need to put this event on for free.” There is no energy exchange. The flow of energy without any constriction is interrupted. It’s not because we’re asking for something, because we’re asking for help. No. It’s because we’re expecting it. The arts expect it because they’re underfunded. It’s the old stories that serve us to a certain point until they’re not anymore. This dependency and “Look at me” “Poor me” attitude and story that performing arts have literally because they do not know their own worth as we established last week and even arts, in general, does not know its own worth. This is why it is fighting for existence and having these matches between the people performing and these organizations.
So if they could take that worthiness back and understand and actually also have the ability to exchange energy in form of money for services, what other great services could they actually employ and what would that do to excel their business? It’s a circle. It’s a flow of energy that is somewhere interrupted. And this is why we’re seeing all of these terrible things happening.
Take your power back
The first step to taking your power back is knowing what you don’t want. Taking your power back is a step closer to knowing what your own worth is, how you see yourself, how you want to be seen. That also goes for the entire industry. For the performing arts, what would that look like if they were to take their power back? What could they actually not only create but what could they attract like a magnet?
The second step is setting boundaries. Who are you going to let into your life? Who are the closest five people around you? Look at them and that’s the sum of you in every aspect, including your financial net worth. So have a look. Really, truly have a look? Who are these people? How much time are you spending with them? How do you feel when you’re with them? Are they keeping you in what’s familiar or are they cheering you on? Are they your cheerleaders or not? Begin with boundary setting because it’s a big part. It’s you to show up as you for the people who are really, really meant to be with you and love you for you because you’re being you for the first time. It might be an adjustment for them to actually see you show up as that full self, but if they’re really meant to stay in your life, they will. And if they’re not, then not everybody’s meant to stay in your life, your whole life. But what do you sacrifice by trying to keep people around and you not being yourself? It’s not a long-term solution. You cannot live your life that way. And you become a version of yourself that you don’t like anymore. You can’t even look in the mirror anymore.
With people falling away, just be aware that there will be some that will try to put you back into your place, into your familiar zone. They will perhaps tell you what happened to you, who have you become, you’re nothing like you used to be. It has nothing to do with you and everything with them.
Zooming out to the arts and setting boundaries, there aren’t many boundaries in the performing arts that companies have in terms of knowing their own worthiness or who they allow into the boardrooms and on the board and into the studios.
The third step of taking back your power is to reflect daily on what fills your cup. Just do one thing a day for yourself. What can you do for yourself each day and get used to feeling good?
What it has to do with money
You may ask yourself, what does that have to do with money or with your paycheck? Well, it has everything to do with money. If you are feeling unworthy of receiving, if you don’t feel worthy of receiving compliments, then you also will not feel worthy of receiving energy that pays for what your services are. And if you’re not getting paid, you’re not going to get food in your belly and you’re not going to be able to have more choices and more availability of the things that will make you a better artist, a better human being. And it’s just not going to happen. You will literally energetically repel money from coming to you if you don’t feel worthy about yourself.
That’s where it starts really. Sit on your front porch before you go to a studio and write down, do you actually feel worthy of receiving? What’s your income goal? How much would you like to make? And yes, you have a choice. You get to choose. And then you can go and create it. You don’t have to wait for the company to put a contract in front of you, and saying that, okay, you’re gonna get $500 per week for 32 weeks out of the year. You also don’t have to work for free anymore. No, not anymore. You can serve people and you can give whatever you have away and receive something back. So find your worthiness and you will find your ability to negotiate your contracts, to make decisions that are great for your future self, not where you are today, but for the person that you are becoming, and things will fall in place.
So much ❤ Susanne
About Christy Little
Former professional dancer turned entrepreneur who is passionate about living in purpose and assisting people to see the greatness inside of them to live their ideal life.