Gina & Susanne connecting this week over events in their lives as artists. Creating space with the intention to shine a light on dark corners with the hope to support you. Come join us with no judgment. We are holding space to learn, laugh, and downright pointe at ourselves.
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Rise 360 with Gina & Susanne | The phenomenon of chasing versus creating.
The phenomenon of chasing versus creating
~ Quote ~
It’s about being proactive about creating a life you love instead of neatly living the one you think you’re stuck with. Give yourself the gift of a joyous life while you’re still among a living.
–Jen Sincero, ‘You are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life’
The idea of responsibility comes up again. It’s this idea of what you’re given versus what you choose to make. It’s the difference between accepting and going after and creating what you want.
Being proactive was never something that was fostered. It was always about following. And when we’re spending, as young adults, so much time in the studio, it is dangerous to apply all of what we’re learning in a studio also into our lives outside of the studio. And we’re starting to recreate all of that in our life because we are under this assumption that this is what it’s going to take.
Now being proactive doesn’t mean you are a role breaker. Being proactive doesn’t mean you are rude or disrespectful. Proactive means taking care of yourself and knowing what you want.
Proactive is pro, it’s before. It’s not reactive. It’s before the situation where you set up things so that you are successful at the moment. So it takes pre-thought.
When we’re talking about chasing, it usually comes from the feeling of lack, meaning there are not enough jobs, there’re not enough performances, not enough opportunities, not enough money, not enough pointe shoes, ‘I’m not enough’, my feet aren’t good enough, my pirouettes. When we are in that state of mind, we are chasing things. We’re consistently being in a reactive mode. But when we’re proactive, we’re setting a goal and saying, “Okay, in three years, this is the plan. This is where I want to see my life. This is who I want to be.” And then you can take actions that will help you to create who you want to be versus reacting to everybody that’s out there, situations, or people, or circumstances, and be in that passive state of chasing.
What’s on the other end of this reactive chasing, not enough, it’s abundance that blossoms into creativity, and your artistry flows and your finances flow. And you are in the state of abundance rather than lack. So do you want to be chasing or do you want to be creating? As dancers and artists, we want to be in that latter category of creating, but we’re stuck in this loop of this not-enoughness.
How to get out of the not-enough loop
It starts with you. We cannot change our environment until we change ourselves. We can find rescue in different environments, but the common denominator is us, and who we are as a person is going to inspire, influence the environment that we’re stepping into. You can be in the best company that you wanted to, and when you take yourself with you, you will still attract the same, not-enoughness because you haven’t worked on your roots yet.
What coming from a place of abundance and self-worth look like
This is up to us and how we are going to create that. The word “creation” could be redefined in terms of yes, you’re creating a new studio, and yes, you’re being asked to put yourself into somebody else’s shoes, but why are we not applying that same principle to our own life? This is possible. But we have to do this over and over and over again. You have to be set on where you want to go and be able to let that go without chasing it, but understanding that you are worthy of receiving it. We can’t attract anything that we’re not a match to energetically. It has everything to do with what we’re putting out as a person.
When we’re always in that lack mentality and the chasing, we can’t see other possibilities. We only see what we don’t have and, therefore, we’re going to create more of that because our brain thinks this is what we want.
What this would look like in an audition
So what would this look like in an audition between a dancer auditioning from a place of chasing, saying, “I need this job; there are all these dancers here.” and how that affects our mentality versus the dancer who shows up and they know who they are and they have this vibration about them of creativity, self-worth, owning their uniqueness as a dancer. Without saying anything, your artistic staff is gonna be able to see the difference between those two dancers. It’s an unspoken thing and yet it’s very real.
Society has taught us or is trying to teach us what our life is supposed to look like. If we’re zooming in here a little bit into the industry, dancers are being told from the moment when they step into the studio what they’re supposed to wear, how they have to behave, what the rules are. We haven’t asked or challenged these rules at all in a long time.
When you’re not proactive; you’re reactive. When you’re not choosing how you want to show up in the studio, then you’re just reacting to the situation around you and the way that you’re being treated.
Tips to shift from a chasing mindset to a creative one
Through affirmations. Affirmations become trite if you don’t believe what you’re saying, but if you fully believe and you say each morning, “I am a creative artist, I have so much to give to the world, I am worthy of attention,” and fill in the blank. If it’s something that you believe in these words that you’re saying can help to condition your mind to how you’re going to show up. In the beginning, you will feel like a complete fraud. That’s okay. That’s where your discipline comes in that you’re already so used to, and you’re so great at where you just don’t give up and you keep on doing it no matter how silly it may feel.
Tony Robbins, when he first started his self-development journey, would go on walks and keep saying the affirmations that he wanted to become so he could feel. And that’s the magic. When we are connecting emotions to our words, that’s when the magic happens.
The second tip is to set an intention in the morning. How do you want to show up today? How do you feel and how do you want to feel? Not many people wake up motivated in the morning. It’s a completely false statement if your teacher is telling you, you have to be motivated to do accomplish something. It’s not something that we get from the moment we step out of bed; it’s something that we can create. So what do you have to do in the morning to feel motivated? Is it listening to a podcast? Is it going for a walk or taking a bath or meditating or writing down your intentions or do you want to feel when you go to bed tonight? Wire your brain differently. Don’t look at your phone right away and compare yourself to everybody else out there. I look at where you want to be in four hours. Baby steps.
Even if we want to be in this company, dancing these roles in three years, our brain gets completely overwhelmed. That can be your north star. Think of how you can make it more digestible for you. You don’t eat all the food that you’re supposed to eat in life in one sitting. We would explode. It’s the same approach and principle: tiny little bites. Every minute, every step forward counts. That’s part of being proactive. That’s part of deciding where you’re going instead of reacting and getting in that chasing mentality and chasing mode. So stop chasing and start creating.
Make your fire
Think about making a fire. It won’t just show up. You got to collect the sticks, put the logs on top, you’ve got something to spark it, and then it goes. You have to take all those proactive measures to get the fire started and then it’s going throughout the day. Chasing would be, “Please, can I have a fire? Can someone bring me fire?” Being a creative person instead of being in that chasing mode is okay. I better go gather some twigs and I better find some logs and I better get the lighter out.
Okay, we’re sending you so much love. Thank you for being here. Thank you for always listening and till next time.
So much ❤ Susanne
Important Links to Gina McFadden:
I’m so glad you are here. With all that I have, my goal is to serve YOU – to inspire YOU to better health and wellness in an accessible, actionable way. My passion is to empower dancers like you in their pursuit of better health and peak performance. My work as a dance educator has focused around giving dancers the knowledge and tools to care for their bodies and minds.
Dance has been a part of my life since I was nine. I trained at ballet studios as well as competition studios – my heart knows and loves both worlds! (Did you know you were reading the bio of Teen Miss Dance of Michigan 1994?!) I went on to dance professionally The Joffrey Ballet of Chicago, Ballet Pacifica, State Street Ballet and The National Choreographers Initiative.
My students include ballet “bun heads,” competition dancers, concert and commercial dancers…I’ve even taught 3-year-olds (which, as it turns out, is a lot like herding kittens). Most recently, I have been on the faculties of Boston Ballet School, New Jersey School of Ballet, Grand Rapids Ballet School and an adjunct professor at Grand Valley State University and Hope College.
Want to sample some of my writing? I have a blog here and am a blog contributor at The Muse by Apolla. Want to take one of my virtual classes? I teach Apolla Insta Live Series twice a month!
My degrees in business and legal studies tell the tale of a young lady who once thought she wanted to be a lawyer…but this beautiful art form kept calling me back…
Wanting to learn more about anatomy and mind-body connection, I completed my RYT yoga teacher training in 2016. Oftentimes my students will end up in down dog in the middle of a ballet barre because…down dog. I am a Holistic Life, Career & Executive Coach and work with clients (dancers and non) around the globe.
I am married to a handsome Marine (oorah!) and mamma of two lovely daughters, ages 9 and 12. My other joys in life include cooking from scratch, working out, spending time with my family, hosting big dinner parties and reading.
Honored that you are here, Dancer! Please reach out to me via email if you would like to connect!