Susanne shares an event that reminded her of herself many years back. Which lead her to ask what kind of stories did she carry then and now?
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What kind of stories do you carry?
Hello, and welcome to another episode of the point of rice podcast. My name is Susanne, and I am your host today. Today I want to talk about responsibility. See, I just came back from a walk outside, and I overheard a conversation.
A woman was chatting with her friends, complaining about the circumstances she was in. She stated that her partner was not getting back to her via email, the boss who didn’t approve her vacation. She was asking for her other boss to complain about her ability to perform her job. All I could do was smile because I’ve been that person.
I have been the person that stood in the studio, looked at the casting and complained, and blamed everybody else for not getting what I wanted and never, ever did I consider that I am the master. I am the creator of my own life. And that was because I had the wiring in me and my subconscious. That everything is out of my control. I don’t get to decide; everybody else gets to decide for me. Cause that’s how I was brought up. If we’re looking at ballet school, I mean, every breath was dictated by the teachers, the director, and everybody around me, and these were my formative years.
Neither did I have the understanding that I get to choose what I want to do. You know, why didn’t I get, or what is it in me that I could change today to get what I want and realize that it’s on me, I get to choose what I want to do, and I get to choose the goals. I get to choose how I want to feel. I get to choose how I want to react to the things that have been given to me and start asking different questions.
And I get to choose who I want to be was not only a compelling revelation, but it was painful too. It was a rude awakening, meaning. What do you mean? It is nobody else’s fault. What do you mean? That’s all on me, It hurt, and I get it. It is our default to blame everybody and everything outside of us.
For where we’re at, but the only thing we can do is, you know, see what is given to us and what can we make out of it? How can we maneuver? How can we change the perspective, and how can we frankly shift the outcome? Because it’s not about the circumstances, it’s about how we react.
When we’re looking at the performing arts, and if you have been listening to this podcast for a while, you know that I’m stepping into a role that I am not familiar with. I am a woman founder. I am tapping into the tech industry. I am launching a platform that has the capacity and ability to change millions of lives of performing artists. It can change how we create art and structure the business of a performing arts organization.
And that’s big. That feels big. And in the beginning, it felt way too big for me, the belief that I carried for such a long time. Oh, that I know I can’t do that. Like I’m not cut out for this. I have been hearing it for over 40 years that stay small, swim with the swarm, and don’t stand out where I wanted to ignite change and bring something better to this world that I’m living in because I am passionate about helping others.
So just the journey from coming from that belief into stepping into, well, what would it look like? Who would I be? What would I have to tap into? What thoughts and opinions do I get to choose to make my vision a reality? What questions do I have to ask? Who do I have to collaborate with? Where can I learn? Where am I to research? And that takes a lot of reprogramming my subconscious mind that believes that I’m not worthy. I’m into it, and I can do anything I want to. I will start with acknowledging that I can, frankly, standing in a studio, competing with everybody, fighting every day, and being exhausted was nothing.
My friends, nothing compared to what I’m experiencing right now regarding rewriting my belief system. So I’m telling you. By blaming the industry by blaming everybody outside of you, you’re not doing yourself a favor. No, you are hindering yourself from stepping into what you’re capable of becoming; you are holding yourself back.
You’re the only one that’s on your own. So, if you want to change in your life if you wish to change in the industry if you’re going to leave this world a little better and better place for the artists or the women or men that come off to you, you have to start with yourself. You have to start with yourself.
Gaining awareness of what kind of stories do you carry? What kind of stories have you bought into? Do you believe that money doesn’t grow on trees? Is that money going to burn a hole in your pockets?
Successful people are angry and destructive, and they work hard. Is this what you believe? Or is there a different version? Is there something that you can rewrite? Is there something you can change in your thoughts every day to step into what you want to see? Let me tell you whatever you want to see, any vision you have. It’s possible; you can do it, I promise you. All you have to do is understand that nobody is out there. Is going to give it to you. Nobody out there is going to believe in you unless you do. Nobody out there is going to think and what you want to create unless you do yourself first. So for today, grab a pen and a piece of paper and write down that first thing you want to change in your life.
What would that feel like if you are not afraid of rejection anymore? What would it look like if you have another $3,000 to spend every month and don’t judge it? Ask the question, what would it look like? What would it feel like? And I’m telling you right now, the, how will literally reveal itself to you.
So my learnings, that’s what I have for you today. Start with yourself, everything you do, how you show up, how you start your day, how you talk about others, who is in your circle of influence, all of that matters. And you. You are the creator of that world. I’m sending you so much love. Thank you for tuning in. If this resonates with you, I would love it. If you share it, the more respect, the message that we are in control, particularly you as a performing artist. As the woman in the performing arts, you as the man and performing arts, stop looking at the industry as not changeable, stop complaining about the circumstances, and start creating the world you want to see.
Don’t judge it. Don’t say it’s impossible. Don’t say it’s going to take forever, and therefore I’m not going to take action every day. Every circumstance that we want to change always starts with a tiny little step. And that little step is on us, on every single person of us to take.
That’s all I have for today. I’m sending you so much love.
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About Susanne Puerschel
Susanne, Founder of Pointe To Rise, an Empowerment society for dancers and other artists, Wellness Entrepreneur, podcast host, former international ballerina, and an experienced principal chief executive officer had the privilege to grow up behind the iron curtain in Berlin, Germany.
She’s dedicating her time now, after working in cooperate America and running her own businesses, to building community among dancers and artists, providing mindset and high-performance coaching, and building a media company that will be the springboard to revitalizing the Arts.