Susanne begins with a timely reminder of the January 17th workshop that her dear friend Rachel Josefina and herself are holding in New York City that you can attend in person or over Zoom. She then delves into the topic of the day, which is the things you can start doing in 2022. Susanne speaks of how we set new intentions every new year and by the end of January, we have already broken the promises we made to ourselves.
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Things to start in 2022
You know how every New Year’s we set the intention, ‘Okay, this year’s going to be different, I’m going to do different things, I’m going to be better, this is going to be different?’ And we get all the way to like January 26th and then we stop. We stop with the healthy eating, we stop with the boundary setting, we’re stopping with the people pleasing. And instead of stopping and starting, how about you actually just give yourself permission to put some changes in your daily life. You don’t have to wait until a new year starts. You don’t have to wait until a new month starts or a new week. You can start that every single day, and believe me, self-development or changing something requires you giving yourself the grace that you will have to start over and over and over again because change only transpires, change is the outcome of what is in the middle. The path to the change is actually where the work lies and where we start to fall off. And that’s okay. That is totally okay. You just be committed to yourself, give yourself the love and restart.“Instead of stopping and starting, how about you actually just give yourself permission to put some changes in your daily life. You don't have to wait until a new year starts. You don't have to wait until a new month starts or a new week. You can start… Click To Tweet
Things you can implement today
So I want to talk about a few things that you can implement today, not all at once, but pick one or two until you have that polished and then go to the next. But here are a few things that I would recommend for you to put into place to just feel a little bit lighter, to not depend on others so much, and to understand how magical you are.
#1 Be intentional
So first, be intentional with your time, your thoughts, your words, your life, your heart, your energy, and your action, meaning being intentional about everything you do, and that starts with being intentional about your thoughts and the words are coming out of your mouth. Because when we’re aware of what we’re saying and what we’re thinking, that will transpire into how we’re spending our time, what kind of relationships we have, where we are putting our energy, and what kind of actions we take, and therefore what kind of life we’re living. So be intentional about your thoughts and your words in the beginning.
#2 Take care of yourself
Number two, keep taking care of yourself even when you’re tired. You just got through the Nutcracker season, which is the hardest season of the entire year, I at least found when I was living and dancing in North America. And you had a break from it for a whole year. Your body’s just getting used to it again. Therefore, when we are tired, and I can attest to that, the first thing that we cut short as taking care of ourselves, meaning we’ll add people into our life that are not serving us. We are getting we’re getting flaky with our boundaries, we tend to put things into our body that are not serving us and not good for us that are an easy fix. Because when we’re tired, we don’t have that much brain energy. We don’t have energy left altogether. And we make choices at that point that serve our ego at that point, and perhaps serve our old habits more than who we want to be because the resistance is way too high. So make sure that even if you’re out of Nutcracker now, there will always be something different that needs you to have all of your energy and then some present, and for these moments, your self-care, your self-love has to be your number one priority. So especially when you’re tired, that is when you have to set yourself up for success so you can take care for yourself, have non-negotiables in your life, have an accountability partner that will check on you and say, “Hey, have you done that yet? Have you gone for a walk today? Have you done something nice for yourself today? Have you actually written down what went well today?” These are all self-love methodologies that you can implement at any given point in your day. So take care of yourself, even and especially when you are tired.
“There will always be something different that needs you to have all of your energy and then some present, and for these moments, your self-care, your self-love has to be your number one priority. So especially when you’re tired, that is when you have to set yourself up for success so you can take care for yourself, have non-negotiables in your life, have an accountability partner that will check on you.”
#3 Dream it, believe it
Number three, there is nothing too good for you. Dream it and believe it. I don’t know if you can relate to it. I’m just going to put this out here to where I used to be. And I still find myself at points that I have these feelings and thoughts are coming in that’s like, oh, no, that’s too big for me or I’m not worthy of that. So whatever you think you’re not worthy of, you will not receive. It is going to be unobtainable for you, and therefore, I am telling you, you are worthy of everything and anything you can dream of. There is nothing too big for you. It is not just for other people, it is not just for those privileged people. No, you are the same. You just need to make that choice. So there’s nothing too good for you. Keep on repeating it, saying it, dreaming it, writing it. Everything is possible.
#4 Recognize who you are and what you deserve
Recognize who you are and what you deserve. Start by removing yourself from people and situations that do not align with your worth. In other words, and I’m going to take a real life example out of here. Do you know when we, in the performing arts world, particularly how we try to make ourselves fit and perhaps dim our light and our worth in order to get the contract or the role or we apply things that we don’t agree with but we yet shape ourselves to fit the box that’s out there so we can say we have the contract with Broadway or have an engagement at the Paris Opera. The thing is that when we’re shrinking ourselves to what other people need us to be, we’re not serving us. No, we’re serving the people that need us to be small. So when I say here that removing yourself from these people or situations that do not align with your work, it actually requires you to first understand your own worth. So find your worthiness and then don’t be afraid of letting go of the people that don’t believe you are.“The thing is that when we're shrinking ourselves to what other people need us to be, we're not serving us. No, we're serving the people that need us to be small.” Click To Tweet
Let go of the people and situation that do not align with that with that new belief anymore. And it’s a hard one. I removed myself from many situations. I let go of a whole company because it did not align with my worthiness anymore. And was it a hard decision in the beginning? Oh, yes, absolutely. It was my livelihood. It was how we made money. It’s how I fed my family, but when we’re looking at these outside metrics, there comes a point in your life where that doesn’t matter anymore, where it shouldn’t matter anymore. Your mental health, your happiness, and here do I say your fulfillment is 10,000 times more important than what other people need you to be?
So have the guts. If you don’t, talk to somebody else about this, find a community. And by the way, you either can be part of the Pointe to Rise community, or the Choosing to Rise community. We’re always in there, we’re always supporting each other, we’re always cheering each other on and sharing what’s on our hearts and how we can work through the harder days.
#5 Stop having relationships with people you’re not having a relationship with
This is when you put so much energy into fixing somebody or pleasing somebody or holding somebody’s hand that has nothing to do in your life and maybe doesn’t want to do anything in your life and perhaps shouldn’t also be in a relationship with you. So be mindful of who you’re actually establishing relationships with. And if there are too many problems in a perceived relationship that you have, let that go. Too much energy spent on something that is not creating joy for you or an income.
#6 Get a coach/mentor
Last but not least, get a coach or a mentor. Go do therapy. It’s time that we heal because what we’re not healing is holding us back. I’ve seen so much about this lately that I want to dive a little bit deeper in here. You don’t have to do this alone. In fact, sometimes we can’t do it on our own. We need other people that can point us in the right direction, that can offer a different perspective that can unearth feelings or emotions or stories that we haven’t even considered are still existing in us. They put things together for us in a different way that we are not able to do that on our own. So get a coach or a mentor or go to therapy. It’s time to heal what’s holding you back.
We can spend our time blaming everybody else outside of us and saying this is the person because I have adapted this and because of this person and this situation I don’t trust people anymore or I don’t believe in myself. That will work for a little bit, and then you will recognize that you are now an adult. You are in the mental and physical capacity to reparent yourself, that you can take responsibility for your own actions and for your own life because truthfully, nobody’s going to come and rescue you. Nobody’s going to drag you out of bed and tell you how to do it and what to do it. Nobody’s going to be there 24 hours a day. You have to find ways on how to motivate yourself. And if that’s a coach, if that’s a mentor, if that means, they’re up for a bit or a long time, then do it because healed people heal people. The ones that are still hurt are going to continue hurting other people. It’s our responsibility to break that cycle. And I’m telling you, it’s going to be hard. It’s not going to be easy, because we’re not only healing our own stuff, we’re healing generational stuff, and that is much harder. But that shouldn’t be holding you back. That’s for the next generation and the generations to come. If that’s performing arts for women or for the entire world, get a mentor, get a coach, go to therapy. It’s time to heal. What’s holding you back from stepping into your power, into your worthiness, and into you understanding that you are enough and that you have a special gift that you need to share with this world.“Healed people heal people. The ones that are still hurt are going to continue hurting other people. It's our responsibility to break that cycle.” Click To Tweet
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About Susanne Puerschel
Susanne, Founder of Pointe To Rise, an Empowerment society for dancers and other artists, Wellness Entrepreneur, podcast host, former international ballerina, and an experienced principal chief executive officer had the privilege to grow up behind the iron curtain in Berlin, Germany.
She’s dedicating her time now, after working in cooperate America and running her own businesses, to building community among dancers and artists, providing mindset and high-performance coaching, and building a media company that will be the springboard to revitalizing the Arts.