What does power mean to you?

SUSANNE TALK

January 25, 2022

 

Susanne discusses personal power and our stories around it. She shares her personal journey with power and some of the beliefs and perceptions we have about power and the importance of having a good relationship with power.

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What does power mean to you?

A huge thank you!

Hello, and welcome back to the Pointe to Rise podcast. It is your host Susanne here. So before I start, we’re going to talk about personal power and our stories around personal power today. I just wanted to send you all a huge thank you. Downloads of the podcast have tripled ever since we’ve come back from our little break. And I really appreciate it. I love that you left reviews, it would mean the world to me if we can keep it going. Because the more reviews we have, the more access we gained to broader audiences. More audiences means more downloads, more downloads means more guests. There we go, a little insight into the podcasting business. Nonetheless, so grateful for all of you showing up, for always listening, and for your sharing. It really means the world to me.

 

Personal Power

Let me just dive into why I’ve chosen to talk about personal power today. Not only because we talked about it on the Choosing to Rise workshop that I held on the 17th of January with Rachel Josefina. And the breakthroughs that we’ve seen in that event were just humongous. It was incredible. But I also really realize that being a woman, being a human being or however you identify yourself, if we don’t know our power, we’re more prone to live somebody else’s life. And that’s not what we’re here for. We’re here to be us.  We’re here to be ourselves. We’re here to shine, as bright as we can. So we leave our footprints on this earth before we leave again.

 

if we don’t know our power, we’re more prone to live somebody else’s life. And that’s not what we’re here for. We’re here to be us.

-Susanne Puerschel

Our beliefs and perceptions about power

So I wanted to frame and preface today’s episode this way now. Let me start with my journey with power. I didn’t know that I actually had an issue per se with personal power until I had a conversation about it. Meaning until I actually dove deeper into the subject, I didn’t know what was holding me back. And it just opened up so many layers of discovery on what my personal relationship is with power, how I was perceiving it, what it meant to me, and how I saw other people in positions of power. So let me share first what my perspective really was. And let me know in your comments, stories, and reviews if you can actually relate to this.

 

We’re here to be ourselves. We’re here to shine as bright as we can, and leave our footprint on this earth before we leave.

-Susanne Puerschel

So I felt that in order to be powerful, you have to be bad and hurt somebody.

Another belief that I had was that if I am powerful, I’m going to give or take somebody else’s power away. Meaning I did not understand that we all have a certain amount of personal power. We’re all blessed with that.

I thought I had to take something away from somebody else to gain power, meaning having authority, working from the top down, and not being able to really live with love or lead with love. Versus what I thought that power meant was that I have to lead with fear. And I never wanted to do that because that’s how I was led. And that felt awful. This is why I’m here. Right? This is why the podcast is here.

So I also associated power with being selfish. Like it’s just about me and nobody else. I associated power with showing others that they’re lesser than me. And I didn’t want to do that.

And I also associated power with knowing it all, meaning unless I know everything—and everything is a big word here—I am not powerful. And let’s be honest. We can’t know everything. With that I felt like power isn’t for me because I can’t know everything. So therefore I’m not even going to explore what that actually means.

 

Power as something great

So in this conversation that I’ve had, what really came out for me was that if we do not have a good relationship with power, with the word, with what it stands for us, then how are we going to step into our own power? How are we going to show up powerful? How are we going to inspire other people if we don’t associate power as something great and that everybody should tap into.

 

if we do not have a good relationship with power, with the word, with what it stands for us, then how are we going to step into our own power?

-Susanne Puerschel

 

And that’s where all the layers started to unfold and literally fall down like a curtain. That in my subconscious mind, I had this belief that power equals bad. And therefore I really never claimed my own power. I never ever really considered stepping into that next brighter version of me because I didn’t think it was something great.

So I’m going to leave this here for you. You can go and repeat this first part and maybe analyze what you are thinking and feeling about power, particularly as woman, and tell me how many of you actually can relate to this.

 

‘Just Be a good girl’

How many of you have been told when you were a little girl, just be a good girl. Just be that good girl and show up as a good girl. You go be that good girl and get the grades. Be that good girl and put your stuff away. Be that good girl and clean up after yourself. Tell me how many of you have heard about that. It was always ‘be a good girl so your mom doesn’t have so much trouble. Be a good girl’. And this is the container of what good girl really means. Anything outside of what other people needed from me was not being a good girl. Meaning if I would have started saying, ‘hey, no, right now I need to take care of myself,’ that would actually meant I’m not a good girl. And with that, I am losing maybe the love of my parents or the company or the school that I was in. So I wanted to throw that in there to see if it’s something that you heard in your childhood often. And how does it make you feel right now when you hear that? What is it actually bringing up in you?

 

How to rewrite the story

So I wanted to offer you here how we can actually rewrite the story that we have perhaps inherited about love and why that is so important. Now I’m speaking mostly to performing artists, and I’m also speaking to you, as whoever you identify as a man or woman, them, they, whatever that is for you. No matter where we’re at, we are entitled to step into our power. Nobody has the right to tell you who to be, what to do, and how to do it. In the performing arts, we have given our power away. And if you look at the industry, the industry actually itself has given its power away by how they set up the business in quotation mark model. How they’re running their yearly operations. How they’re treating their employees. Look just at the pay structure of an organization where directors that once in power, quotation marks again, get the most paid and the ones that actually make the company possible that are the product get paid the least right?

 

Nobody has the right to tell you who to be, what to do, and how to do it if it doesn’t feel right to you

-Susanne Puerschel

 

So we see where we’re placing power over, let’s say knowledge or worth, perhaps or ability or availability. So but my point here is that even though we might be working in an organization, an industry that has yet to claim their own power and really ask the question, ‘hey, what does it look like and how we’re not showing up for our audiences, and for our patrons and for our artists when we are in powerless situations like what are we really telling them? How Are we leading? Are we creating leaders? Or are we creating followers?  And being an industry that has yet to make that leap, can feel struggling.

 

if we do not have a good relationship with power, with the word, with what it stands for us, then how are we going to step into our own power?

-Susanne Puerschel

Be consistent with self-love

However, that doesn’t mean you cannot show up as and with your own powerful self. Because the more and more people are stepping into their power, the more and more we give other people also the permission to do the same. And that means, you know, be consistent with self-love, be consistent to loving yourself. That means no shitty self-talk. Your boundaries need to be kept up, negotiate your contracts, eat whenever you need to, and whatever you need to. Do what’s best for you and not what is best for your company. And that’s all self-love, right? Keep your promises, keep the promises to yourself.

Be really aware of where you’re giving your power away, and how are you getting it back because you cannot serve your audiences from an empty cup. And the more and more you give your power, your energy away, the less you have to give. And that’s where we slip into burnout, any kind of disorders, and eating disorders.

 

You cannot serve your audience from an empty cup And the more and more you give your power and your energy away, the less you have to give.

-Susanne Puerschel

 

Being your powerful self

So be really aware that your power is actually what makes you so special. Meaning, claiming it is the most important part of being an artist. Giving it away for the sake of I don’t know- suffering for the art is an old story that we do not have to buy into anymore. And ask for what you want, not for what you think you can get. I’m saying that again. Ask for what you want, and not for what you think you can get. It is so important that you know what you for yourself want, need, and desire in order to be your powerful self.

 

And ask for what you want, not for what you think you can get

-Susanne Puerschel

Ask for help

Don’t hold yourself back. By procrastinating or finishing the story before you even ask. Asking for help is such a special skill to have. I get it and I get to struggle with it. But it doesn’t mean we can’t do it. So ask for help, ask for what you want. Not for what you think you can get. And when we’re claiming our power to release the thought of if I am powerful, somebody else is going to suffer. Or I am taking something away from somebody else. How does this feel?  When I step into my power, I give other people permission to do exactly the same. That’s a beautiful rewrite that will completely change the way you feel about that. A thought creates an emotion out of energy in motion in your body that then leads to actions, that then will produce results.

 

When I step into my power, I give other people the permission to do exactly the same

-Susanne Puerschel

Your superpower

So when you look at that circle, or at that chain you have to start with your thoughts meaning how you feel about power, or how you think about power. What kind of stories are coming up when you talk about power. Determine how you show up on stage in your life and your relationships with other people in the studio or wherever you are. You don’t have to be a good girl, you be you because that My dear that’s your superpower.

You don't have to be a good girl, you be you because that my dear that's your superpower -Susanne Puerschel Click To Tweet

 

How to be part of the choosing to rise community

All right guys. Here we go. That’s all I have for today. I’m so grateful to you. Thank you for tuning in and as always, I am looking so forward to your shares on social media. Also if you want to be part of the Choosing to Rise community, please go into the Pointe to Rise account on Instagram, can or you will find something like a little button in the beacon link in that account where you can subscribe. It would also mean the world to me that you actually go and follow the RISE Media account. Follow, comment, share, sign up for our beta group. It would mean the world to me.

 

The biggest takeaway from the Choosing to Rise Artist Workshop

The biggest takeaway, I think, from the event that I had was that; the belief that we have to do something by ourselves that when we are not in the known, and when we are maybe asking for help, we’re giving our power away. And that was such a belief I carried for such a long time and still working on it. And it is the understanding that in the community we are actually so much stronger and so much more empowered. So join the Pointe to Rise community, and it would mean the world to me if you sign up for RISE Media and subscribe to the beta testing group for this platform. Thank you guys sending you so much love and go step in your power. You have nothing to lose. Bye.

 

 In community, we are actually so much stronger and so much more empowered.

-Susanne Puerschel

 

 

That’s all I have for today. I’m sending you so much love.
Again, if this resonates with you if you want to learn more about how emotions play a role in our lives, drop me a DM or share one of your biggest takeaways of this podcast. I’m sending you so much love till soon. Bye-bye

I’m sending you so much ❤

Susanne

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About Susanne Puerschel

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Susanne, Founder of Pointe To Rise, an Empowerment society for dancers and other artists, Wellness Entrepreneur, podcast host, former international ballerina, and an experienced principal chief executive officer had the privilege to grow up behind the iron curtain in Berlin, Germany.
She’s dedicating her time now, after working in cooperate America and running her own businesses, to building community among dancers and artists, providing mindset and high-performance coaching, and building a media company that will be the springboard to revitalizing the Arts.

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