Susanne chats openly about what she is currently seeing in the communities of dancers and performing artists as a whole, the lack of an empowered state of mind.
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Why you should choose to live an Empowered Life.
Hello, everyone. Welcome to another episode of the Pointe To Rise podcast. I am so grateful that you’re here today. So today’s episode, how to take your power back, how to live an empowered life, came to me because of the conversations that I’ve had over the past couple of days. And I, I found that was something that came up over and over and over again.
This is something that we see in the current community of dancers and performing artists as a whole, even the art form or the arts in itself, is not in an empowered state of mind. And, well, let me talk about what I found, where I have been, and what are some tools you can take out of this episode right now, today that you can start to feel more empowered and live a more fulfilling than that. So allow me to begin with where, where we’re at. Here’s what I’m seeing. I’m seeing a lot of fear in the community. I’m seeing much resistance and uncertainty on what it would actually look like if people would speak up more. Really truly step into their power. Would they still be able to perform, would they still be getting the roles?
What they still are eligible to fit in that box that has been given to you, and some may answer? Yes, absolutely. I can be whoever I want to and. I will be able to be who I am and still perform where and what I want. And for others, the answer is no. And with that, now comes the fear of what am I choosing now?
Am I choosing myself as the person? Who I really want to be and what I want to do, or do I choose what I’ve chosen before? Because that’s familiar. That’s what I know. And quite honestly, it’s also what I love to do. And honestly, you guys, if you’re in that second category, it will be a process for you to find your way into what really, really will fit you.
So meaning that I, I want to take that, that significant weight off of your shoulders, where you may feel like you have to make a decision right now. Like there is no, right now, every day is a decision you can decide every day, how you want to feel who you want to be.
This one step of what I wanted to suggest is how you can take your own power back now when I accept myself. As an example, as a dancer, gosh, even as a ballet school student, I had no power whatsoever. I’m not talking about physical power. I’m talking about mental power.
And I’m talking about the knowledge of my own power, and I’m still, to this day, reluctant to even look at it because of funny reasons. And you may just identify that in yourself. One is, well, what if I step into all of that? What if I don’t recognize myself? And what if others don’t recognize me and with that?
What if they don’t like me anymore? Or me as I have three boys, I have a husband. My biggest fear is. If I really step into me who I genuinely think I am on the inside, will I still be loved? Will my children still see me as their mother? Well, my husband still love me. Will we still be a couple? Will that still work?
And these are, these are my personal fears, and I’m sure you have your own. So I invite you to actually really look at what that could be. And so it’s not only the fear of being so powerful, but it is also the fear of what you’re going to discover because you might just think that maybe I’m not powerful at all.
Maybe there is nothing inside of me that needs to be discovered. And believe me, that’s where I was too. Definitely 1000%; it’s like I better not even step into this whole empowerment kind of movement, because what if there’s nothing? What if I have nothing to say? What if I have nothing to inspire others with?What if I have nothing to say? What if I have nothing to inspire others with? Click To Tweet
What if there is genuinely nothing, and I am still and always will be that bun head that I was labeled as? Let me tell you something. Everybody has something to offer. Everybody in this world has some kind of superpower, and it is on you to find it, own it, stand in it, and live in that purpose.
100% as for me. It took me an exceptionally long time to shed these layers. And as I said, it is still a process. And with every day comes that choice that I really, genuinely am stepping into what I could be capable of. When I started my self-development journey, I quickly realized that I had no power whatsoever.
And that everything that I was thinking, doing, wanting was just depending on other people. And it was never me who had, let’s say, a baton in her hands. Right. Let me give you, if you’re wondering if you live an empowered life and let me say this, it is so important to really take a look at it because yes, we can, to get by just beautiful.
And even if you have that principal contract and dance on all of the stages you ever wanted to dance on. I still invite you and look at how much do you have to actually sacrifice for that? How much do you have to bend the question? Is that? Would this also be fun? Could this be done in an empowered way?
Do I really have to agree with everybody and play and schmooze? What does that next level, even when you’re on the top? What does that next level really look like for you? So here are seven things that you can look at yourself, take a piece of paper, take a pen, write them down and really sit and think of what that could feel like for me. Is this something that I actually experienced in my life?
I’m telling you these seven things were part of my life. They are now, but they weren’t back then.
Number one, is you feel respected. So overall, you think that other people respect who you are, even if you’re showing up without the makeup, without the glamour. If you’re authentic, you’re input, your contributions are valued, and you also are not worried.
What they’re thinking, or you’re not obsessed about their, their thoughts about you. Yeah. So overall you feel really respected by the people that are surrounding you. That is number one of a good way of looking at if you actually are living an empowered life. When I looked at myself, I didn’t feel respected at all back then when I was dancing. I felt everything else but appreciated it quite honestly.
Number two, you feel meaningful meaning that whatever you were doing in your life? You think that there is a meaning behind it in everything you do, in the roles you assume, and in the functions and activities, you perform your work. Your life is aligned with the definition or with your definition actually of the meaning and your purpose.
Again, if I take this back to my experience as a dancer, I was not. I didn’t think what I was doing was meaningful. I tried to find validation and meaning behind everything I was doing by creating attention from others. But did I really think that I was meaningful to others? Was I really thinking or feeling that what I was doing meant something to other people?
No. Quite honestly, there was a time that where I even thought that I didn’t even mean anything to myself, what I was doing. So that is number two.
Number three, you feel loved. You have people surrounding you, people on your Island that love you and appreciate you.
They love you when you’re ugly, crying on the floor, no matter what your doing, they are helping you two.
To feel the very best that you can be. And they’re also there to tell you when you’re not showing up as your very best; they tell you straight up. If you made a mistake and if you hurt them, that is true love. And in a really empowered life, you need people like this around you, but they keep you. They keep you aligned to keep you straight.
They give you sincerity, and they provide you with certainty that you are not alone.
Number four, is you feel contributed, meaning you can contribute to others that need your help in whatever capacity you are capable of is the time. Is it money? Is it encouraging words? It’s holding hands. Is it being there? It is. When you stop making everything about yourself and.
Opening yourself up and understanding that your power. Comes also from helping others to step in their own power. I definitely didn’t do that. Oh my gosh. No, it was; everything was about me. Nothing I would ever do would or even would I actually considered that my true power. It would have come from helping others. So that’s number four, you are contributing to your environment.
Number five, you feel excited and energized most of the time, meaning you are, when you really, genuinely living an empowered life. It is energizing. You are flying out of bed. You can’t wait to do what you need to do for most of your days.
During your days, you feel motivated, upbeat, excited by what is actually in front of you. I mean, sure. We sometimes get sick, or we have those days where we don’t feel 1000%, 100%. But you’re still okay with that? Cause you know, tomorrow will be better too. You know that you are in charge of your energy, physical vitality, health, well-being, and everything you want is literally in your hands.
So you feel excited and energized, and I really want you to look at it. What precisely, what your morning looks like, let’s say, you know, are you hitting the snooze button three times, or are you grabbing your phone and scrolling through Instagram first to get validation and looking at what other people do?
So you know how to feel that is not empowering yourself. Okay. When you really truly feel excited when you have energy, when you have the tools and the knowledge on where your power comes from, that is part of living an empowered life.
Number six, you have a vision for your life. Now, I honestly have to say here that. As long as I was in school, I had a vision, like my vision was getting the job at the opera house, and that was it for me. That was my vision. And then I was like, okay, I’m here now what? And I wasn’t able to rewrite that vision. So, therefore, I was literally just living one day to another, without purpose.
You know, I, I was that cork that was bobbing on the surface of the ocean, just going with the waves, wherever the wind blew me. That’s why it was so easy to tell me what to do. That’s why I was so open to abuse. That’s why I was so open to taking in all the beliefs that really indeed held me back from stepping into my own power.
I have been talking about this earlier in the year already. It is so important to have a vision for your life, like the overall vision. Now, your goals to achieve that vision aren’t going to be the driver. How are you going to get there? We need, we need this as human beings. We need to have a purpose.
So what is your vision for your life? And this is not something that’s going to just come overnight. Or that you will be blessed with while your sleeping. This will consider some thought and some listening, and some awareness. If you’re taking anything away from today’s episode, figure out what your vision for your life is.
Number seven, last but not least, do you feel supported to achieve your vision, meaning your world, the people surrounding you are entirely behind on who and what you want to be in your life. If I go back and look at who was in my life at that point when I didn’t even have a vision.
I was surrounded by people that were, that, that cork bobbing be bobbing back and forth. In the ocean, we all were the same. We all had no vision. Like I think our biggest vision at that point or hope was that, you know, I just want to, I just want to get home. I just want to make it to vacation. I just want to make it through this performance without getting injured.
Definitely, a way of living, and many people settled for that. But I have to say that it was never something that really fulfilled me. I played with it, and I played along with it because I didn’t know any other way. I didn’t ask the question. I didn’t surround myself with other people that were entirely somewhere else, really, really uncomfortable to be in.
We all need help at specific points in our life. And when that time comes, it is imperative that we feel comfortable asking those near us to give us that help. And we also need to feel empowered enough. That is, asking for help doesn’t cost us anything. It doesn’t make us weak. It doesn’t make us small or incapable asking for help is a way of learning.
This is still something that I struggled with so much because it was ingrained in me since I was a little kid. You have to figure it out yourself. There will never be somebody next to you that actually sincerely wants to help you. You should always be aware of the knives that are going to stab you in the back.
Finding those people in your life, regardless of how you feel, where you’re at, actually supports your vision and helps you get there. All right. You guys, so living an empowered life is not reserved for the high achievers. It is not reserved for pretty people; it is for everyone. You need to choose it.
Cause you’re a dancer doesn’t mean that you have to surrender to everything that’s surrounding you. You have the right. To live a very empowered life, regardless of what the industry has taught you. These are just beliefs, and a belief is a thought you keep thinking over and over again. So it is on you to decide whether or not you want to keep going that way.
Or if you actually want to feel fulfilled and happy with what you’re doing and. From my own experience, I can only say who I was back then was like a tiny little part of who I am today. And that’s not only age, guys, and experience. You know, it’s giving myself the permission to sit here and speak to you about it.
It is giving myself permission to show up every single day, fears or not nauseous or not. Working through things or not just still show up and choose how I want to feel, what I want to do, who I want to be. So if anything, you’re taking out of today’s episode. Living an empowered life is for you.
You need to choose it and start with writing down that vision for yourself. Start writing down. What do you really want to achieve in life? Who do you want to be? What is your vision? And then look at the people that are surrounding you. Are they really supporting you in what you’re doing and who you want to be, or are there the ones that are actually keeping you somewhere where you really don’t want to be?
All right, guys. I know what I was a lot, a lot to take in. I had to get this off my chest because I’m seeing it so much and being somewhat and somewhere on the other side of it. I just want you to know that I can give you permission over and over and over again, and that will only get you so far. You need to give yourself the permission to live empowered and step in your own power and believe me.
You are worth so much more than you think you are right now. So I’m sending you so much love. And if you’re looking for a place where you can be at home, where it feels comfortable, where you feel safe, come and join the community, it is all about empowerment. It is all about sisterhood and brotherhood.
We’re all in this together; nobody’s left out; it is entirely free to join. Every content that I put in is free. I’m going to live, and really, really, I want to learn more of what you’re struggling with, so I can help you better. All right, guys, have a lovely day. Thank you so much for tuning in. I’m sending you so much.
So much ❤ Susanne
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About Susanne Puerschel
Susanne, Founder of Pointe To Rise, an Empowerment society for dancers and other artists, Wellness Entrepreneur, podcast host, former international ballerina, and an experienced principal chief executive officer had the privilege to grow up behind the iron curtain in Berlin, Germany.
She’s dedicating her time now, after working in cooperate America and running her own businesses, to building community among dancers and artists, providing mindset and high-performance coaching, and building a media company that will be the springboard to revitalizing the Arts.