Asking the right questions actually gives people the answers that they need to move forward in life. By not asking questions, we are holding ourselves back. We need to start looking at our dreams as something very practically. In other words, our dreams are the problems that we have to learn to solve, dreams are called dreams for a reason, because it is something better than what we have at this very moment and to achieve what is better we must ask more questions.
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Your permission to ask more Questions!
I want to talk to you about our ability to ask questions. And I want to explain to you why I’m choosing to talk about this today. I had a podcast interview the other day, and both of us were baffled around the inability to ask question in ballet. Inability might be a harsh word, but I am choosing that word right now, particularly in a dance and ballet industry are not learning. We both were wondering where that came from. So I shared this story with her.
When I left school, when I stepped as an 18 year old out of this school, I was under the impression a strong belief that I was done with learning that I had to know it all. That whatever I am going to do now has to be perfect, because I just spent eight years really 12 years in school learning and that is all there is for you. You have no more room to learn. That was my belief.
I even remember in my upbringing, asking questions to learn more, because that’s how we learn right by asking more questions. It was never encouraged, at least for me to ask questions, where it was for her (Podcast host). She was encouraged to stay curious, and to ask questions and to actually know that we’re not looking so much for answers, we’re looking for more questions. That kept her open to learning and to wanting to learn and to understand that life is a journey. It’s never a destination. And we’re always going to have to ask questions in order to learn more.It's never a destination. We're always going to have to ask questions in order to learn more. Click To Tweet
Now, fast forward to my time and in the company. I remember when I dare to ask questions it wasn’t received well, particularly when these questions questioned the leadership style or the decisions that were made. I felt that it was not a secure place after a while for me anymore to learn. Because it wasn’t encouraged to ask questions. I’m bringing this up, because asking people questions instead of telling them what to do, creates success that pushes people to be successful. Questions push people to figure out the answers on their own. A system has been used by coaches of elite athletes, therapists and other coaches, it helps the a person discover individual ways of thinking, and perhaps also their mental blocks in applying specific mindsets to help them achieve their goals. When I look at my younger self, and look at her being afraid of asking questions, because I thought, I’m I am stupid if I ask questions, because I should be knowing it all. By now I am out of school, I’m done learning, I should know everything there is to know. And whenever I caught myself instead of asking questions, I just surrender to the fact I don’t know and there is no answer. I never had the curiosity, or the courage to dig deeper.
Asking the right questions actually gives people the answers that they need to move forward in life. And by not asking questions, we are holding ourselves back. We need to start looking at our dreams as something very practically. In other words, our dreams are the problems that we have to learn to solve, dreams are called dreams for a reason, because it is something better than what we have at this very moment. And to achieve what is better.
We must start finding new solutions and we’re finding new solutions by asking more questions. So here are a few benefits that you can receive almost immediately when you give yourself the permission to ask more questions.
- We learn about life through asking questions.
- The more we question, the better answers we get. Don’t chase the answers. Look for more questions.
- Quality of our life directly depends on the quality of the questions we are asking.
- Questioning opens us up to more possibilities.
- Questioning makes us wiser. It helps us to learn more, and to be open to learning more.
I am sharing this with you today because I see so much of the industry surrendering to what it is right now. And not how it could be. I’m so grateful for many people talking about the problems with not asking more questions. I am so determined to ask deeper and deeper questions so that we can together get to the root, why the arts are in a position that they’re in right now.
Why are they so fragile?
Why hasn’t anything changed in such a long time?
Why are we hanging on to these old beliefs that, even though we know already now, specifically after this year of, you know, not being able to perform and having this gift of time where we can dive a little deeper, where we could ask more questions, but yet we only follow what the other person is doing.
So I encourage you, even if you don’t get the answers from your leadership, or from your directors, or whoever you feel you need to ask questions, I encourage you to start with yourself. Start with asking yourself better questions. Ask yourself every morning, how do I feel? And let me just be very frank here. Fine, or good or great are just not going to cut it? Let me give you an example.
Here’s what came out for me this morning, when I asked myself, how am I feeling today?
I know that my day, fuller and when my days are fuller, I tend to live in the future meaning that I am prone for having anxiety and feeling the effects of anxiety. When I feel that way, I am not creative. And I am also not productive. So how can I then with being aware of all these next steps, prevent and take myself right back to every single moment? Sitting here and recording a podcast is extremely stressful for me? Because I still have so many things that I think I am not. And I believe that who am I to sit here speak into a microphone and tell you how I feel and that actually gives you value? So back to my original question. When I asked myself, how do I feel today? I have to be very precise, in the words that I’m choosing that are describing my feelings. I could feel already this morning that I had a little bit of anxiety because I know I have two podcasts interviews, I am recording my own podcast, I have a few decisions to make and a few steps to take that I so don’t want to do because it is so uncomfortable. So in order to not be in my own way, I have to admit to myself, okay, stay in the present moment, do one thing after the other. And if something must be moved to tomorrow, that is fine, too. You are not less than or unworthy or your business is not going to fail because of that. I encourage you to really start feeling into how you’re feeling today. Just today when you wake up that should be your first question. How do I feel today? Am I tired? Does my body ache? Do I feel overwhelmed already today? Am I bursting with energy? Do I feel like I can take on the world these are all really important feelings to acknowledge. Because once you have learned what these emotions what these feelings are actually standing for, you can tailor your day after your training plan, whatever it is that you want to achieve during the day and make it as productive as possible so you’re not actually working against yourself.
Thank you so much for listening today, guys, you mean the world to me? And I hope I could offer you a little bit of insight why it is so important to ask more questions. Stop taking what is given to you and start questioning everything and ask yourself how I can change it if it doesn’t fit, sending you so much love you guys till next time,
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About Susanne Puerschel
Susanne, Founder of Pointe To Rise, an Empowerment society for dancers and other artist, Wellness Entrepreneur, podcast host, former international ballerina and experienced principal chief executive officer had the privilege to grow up behind the iron curtain in Berlin, Germany.
She’s dedicating her time now, after working in cooperate America and running her own businesses, to building community among dancers and artist, providing mindset and high performance coaching and building a media company that will be the springboard to revitalizing the Arts.